The Holidays and Domestic Violence

Stress runs high during the holidays, from October through January.

Family finances are stretched to purchase gifts and travel expenses to visit family.

Excessive alcohol is consumed during the holidays, which although it does not cause abuse, it is a contributing factor to the abuse.

Abusers take advantage of the holidays to exercise additional controls over visits to family members, finances and unrealistic expectations are placed on their victims.

As arguments occur, attempt to maintain a calm demeanor, especially until you can get to a safe place. Abusers frequently use the excuse that, "the holidays just got to me" or "I was just stressed over the holidays". Victims are trying to maintain a calm front for their family and friends, and therefore, do not call the police eventhough they are in danger. Abusers know this and take advantage of their victims. If you find yourself in an an abusive situation, no matter the season, get help.