Showing posts with label dating violence awareness month. Show all posts
Showing posts with label dating violence awareness month. Show all posts

Saturday, February 19, 2011

Arizona/New Mexico Girls' Conferences



The first week of February was a constant roadtrip, but a roadtrip that I would make every week, given the opportunity to interact with these fantastic young women and presenters in Mesa, Tucson, Yuma and Albuquerque. At the Mesa conference, on Feb 1st, John and I had the opportunity to present our play, CONTROL.ASSAULT.DELETE to students from Tempe and Scottsdale. Two days later we were off to Tucson and presented to a hall full of energetic young women. Then we were fortunate to present to Yuma girls.



The article below is a synopsis of the two articles that appeared in the Yuma Sun the next day. What the writer (Mara Knaub) didn't see was the fantastic performance of Amber Norgaard, performer, from Tucson who has been a part of this conference for three years. Amber is a talented singer, musician, writer and all around role model for young women.





Submitted by FTH Intern, Julie Sullivan. Material taken from article in the Yuma Sun writer Mara Knaub - February 5, 2011

"I want you to know how precious you are;you can be anything your heart desires. Don't let anyone tell you anything different about yourself. Understand your worth, because you are all of divine worth."

These were the words spoken by Fix the Hurt founder, Linda King, that rang out across an audience of several dozen teenage girls at the Arizona Girls Conference in Yuma on February the 4th, 2011. "Be smart. Be safe. Don't be fooled by someone who says they love you but all they want to do is hurt you . . . "


Whether or not each individual girl had been affected directly by the hands of domestic violence themselves, what could be certain that Friday at the Ramada Chilton Conference Center was a distinct and captivating sense of hope and knowledge that prevailed throughout the demonstration. Yuman Melanie K, a Las Vegas singer, as well as a former survivor of domestic violence abuse, gave her moving story of batter and hope to the girls. "The first time he hit me, it was in front of friends. It was humilitating. But his excuse was that he had been drinking and he would never do it again," she said to the audience, who was then treated to a performance of two songs which she wrote about domestic violence abuse.


The organizer of the event, Paul Henry Danylewich, (of Fearless White Tiger - Montreal, Canada) described the goal of the Arizona Girls' Conference was to "empower young women with resources, help them recognize the different forms of violence and how to escape from abusive relationships." Danylwewich also noted that each girl should take away from the conference a sense that it is never the victim that should be blamed for domestic violence, but the perpetrator themselves. To incorporate this message into the demonstration, role-playing and story-telling were the main components of the conference. Various members of the audience were engaged in demonstrations, as well as told stories by the survivors themselves, in an extremely moving (oftentimes heart-wrenching) fashion.


"It was fascinating. I learned a lot. Anybody can be a predator. I feel more aware now." said Denise Orozoo, 15, who was an attendee of the conference. Essentially, this was the ultimate goal of the conference. Not necessarily to involve drastic change, but to instill within each attendee awareness - the awareness of their relationsips, the relationships of their friends, or even the most casual of acquaintances.


Thank you, Julie.






Sunday, February 21, 2010

Teen Dating Violence



I have had an amazing two weeks, first with the White Tiger Girls Conferences in Phoenix, Mesa and Tucson and then, Stop Violence Against Women Day at the Capitol and ending with the opportunity to present Lisa's Story to 5 classes of teens at La Joya High School in Tolleson.




More and more it becomes aware that teens want to talk about the experiences they are having personally and what they see going on around them with their friends and family members. We must reach them at the pre-high school and high school level so that they have the tools they need not only during their dating years, but in making good sound relationship decisions as they mature. It is obvious that many do not have positive role models at home and they obviously are not going to get correct information through the media and their music.




We continue to press forward with "Control.Assault.Delete", anticipating a finished product by first of April. Rehearsals begin today for the cast of "Domestic Violence, The Musical?" and will be exciting to see what the new actors and director bring to an already "great" show.

Sunday, February 7, 2010

February - Dating Violence Awareness Month



Much attention is being called to the fact that February is Dating Violence Awareness Month. This, in and of itself, is huge, considering that just a few years ago, the fact that dating violence existed was not even acknowledged in society. It was just considered someone being jealous or having a bad temper.


February 8, 9 and 12, I will participate with Paul Henry and White Tiger Girls Conferences in Phoenix, Mesa and Tucson. Last year was my first time to speak at this annual event and I enjoyed my interaction with the girls very much. After the conference, I received heart-felt letters from girls who had been or knew someone in an unhealthy relationship. One of the letters read as follows:


"For me, the worst part of being in an abusive relationship was that until it got violent I didn't consider it abusive. . . . . . he was an angry, bitter, power hungry man that tried to control everything I said or did. I never thought it would happen to me, but it did. You get to the point where you are unable to cry anymore, anger replaces sadness and fear is the only dominent emotion."


Letters like this one are the reason that we are engaged in the writing and production of our teen dating violence play, "I Have This Friend". I have read some of the early drafts, and I am very pleased with the progress and the direction that Ross Collins and Miciah Dodge are taking with this much anticipated project.


This morning we had our first 2010 production meeting of the cast of "Domestic Violence, The Musical?" I'm very excited and looking forward to working with this great group of talented actors.